Children Standing By

May 10, 2023
By Alternative Divorce Solutions

You are in the midst of the divorce, trying to keep up the
routines of school and work. Your soon to be ex calls and there is a vein
throbbing in your forehead from frustration. Even while you keep your cool, in
the back seat sits your kid, watching your every move. Sure they look at their
iPad, pretending to be oblivious, but internally they are wondering about what
is going on.

Children sense the tension in a marriage. Research has shown
this to be true for infants as well. What is worse is when a parent slanders
the other parent in front of the child. Part of childhood is the need to keep
their parent in an ideal world. But every time one parent challenges that
ideal, the child becomes overwhelmed, burdened, and stressed. They don’t know
what to believe. I have seen kids standing by, watching their entire reality
crumble. And the stress of this tragedy manifests itself through the child
through their schoolwork, their friendships, their relationship with their
siblings and with you.

The emotions between you and your partner are simply
that … between you and your partner. Your child has a different relationship
with their parent than you have with your partner. It is important to respect
that boundary and understand that while you think your child doesn’t notice,
they do. They need to be cared for through this process as well. They want to
love both of you. Don’t make them take sides.


Related Posts

Is Mediation the Same as Divorce?

Is Mediation the Same as Divorce?Divorce is rarely an easy choice to make. Deciding to end your marriage can have inevitable and lasting impacts on your life and future. While summoning the courage to ask for a divorce can be emotionally draining, there are many other decisions that soon-to-be divorcees must make after the paperwork […]

read more

How Do I Handle Valentine’s Day After Divorce?

Staying PositiveValentine’s Day can be difficult for those who have gone through a divorce. Knowing how to celebrate the holiday can be hard when your relationship is no longer intact. If you are struggling to figure out how to handle Valentine’s Day this year, don’t worry! We are here to help. In this blog, we […]

read more

Are Divorce Mediators the Same as Divorce Attorneys?

Divorce Mediators vs. Divorce Lawyers: What’s the Difference?Deciding to end a marriage is never easy. For many couples, the choice to file for divorce can lead to more overwhelming decisions, responsibilities, and a never-ending list of tasks. From hiring an attorney to modifying living arrangements to forming a financial plan, choosing to end a marriage […]

read more