What Is In A Name

You may have noticed recently that we have had a name change. I am so excited about Alternative Divorce Solutions because it captures what sets us apart in this field of work. I created this business out of a desire to find alternatives to divorcing in court. After...

Children Standing By

You are in the midst of the divorce, trying to keep up the routines of school and work. Your soon to be ex calls and there is a vein throbbing in your forehead from frustration. Even while you keep your cool, in the back seat sits your kid, watching your every move....

The New Year

As we welcome 2013, we are faced with reflecting on our past and looking to the future. Many make their resolutions for change in their lives and particularly in their relationships. I appreciate the new year. It gives us a sense of a fresh start and opens us up to...

Spousal Support: Legal vs. Emotional

In court, the spousal support process starts when the judge awards temporary support (before trial). Typically, this is a straight calculation based on the parties’ respective incomes and is a higher number than will be awarded for a permanent support order. In...

Restoring Your Personal Power

Many professionals touch the lives of couples faced with divorce. For example, marriage & family therapists may counsel them, estate planning attorneys may advise them, real estate agents may help them decide what to do with their home, and financial planners may...

Attorney and Mediator

Mediators come in all shapes and sizes. There are attorney mediators and non-attorney mediators, both offering to help couples divorce amicably. However, there are some important differences between the two. We have seen many cases come into our office where a couple...

Feeling Loved

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. If you have gone through a divorce or are in the process of ending your marriage, this may be a dreaded day. What we notice most about people who do well during their mediation and post divorce, is that they take care...

Transformation in Divorce

Divorce is an opportunity, a chance for a new beginning. And while there is great pain in the process of divorce, how you divorce also impacts your ability to move forward. If you spend much of your time embroiled in the struggle of the divorce, it takes longer to...

Peace

Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart. This quote spoke to me today. It made me take a moment to step into the shoes of my clients. During a...